I was talking to my best friend on Skype this morning, and our conversation took a rather philosophical turn. I find it interesting, so I’m going to share it with you guys.
On New Years, I usually take time to look back at the year before and find out how much I have progressed in life, how far I’ve gone, the things I’ve achieved, and how I’ve developed in that one year. So far, my reflections have been positive. These past years I have grown, both through self-development and external achievements. However, as I was talking to my friend about this, I understood that I’ve always had the fear of looking back and realizing that I am still in the same place that I was in last year. Or worse: that I am going backwards.
Upon discussing about this, we came to a good, satisfactory conclusion. We agreed that our reflections should not be based on our external achievements, such as work, academics, or money. Instead, we should look more on personal self-development, our relationships with loved ones, spirituality (if you are religious/spiritual), and other little things that matter. It doesn’t matter much if we don’t get into the school we want to, if we fail in our businesses, if we lose our jobs, as long as we have things to be grateful about. For example, it is much better to gain trustworthy friends than to meet important people. It is much better to have a low-paying but satisfactory jobs than to have a lot of money but no happiness.
I am not saying that worldly things do not matter. I myself love being able to buy the things I want and to travel wherever I want. However, it is important to see that they are only temporary, and that the truly great things in life are free, as the famous saying goes.
However, there will be times where we do not advance in our personal development and relationships. There will be times where we seem to move backwards, where we became less happy and less connected to our loved ones than before. This is not a good thing, but it is not a cause for distress. Rather, it just shows that things need to change. Maybe we need to change. Think about it as a blessing, as a warning that we could have been better. Without it, we would have stayed in the same place again because we made no move to improve.
On a side note, please check out a travel blog I made with my sister and friend: https://mypassengerdiaries.wordpress.com
Finally, I’d like to say that it doesn’t matter if we fail. When looking back we realized that we have fallen so low, we needn’t worry, because as long as we have a future, things will get better as long as we have the will to work for it.