I talked to someone earlier this week and he made me realize that for so many years, I have done everything not for myself, but for my parents. Everything I did, I did it for them. I tried so hard to please them. I tried so hard to be better than others, all to make them happy.
This might not seem like a bad thing. After all, we must respect our parents. And I truly agree with that. We must always be loving and kind to our parents, as we will not exist without them, as they have loved us unconditionally, as we are their children. However, what I was doing, and what I believe a lot of children are doing, is unhealthy.
We need to live our lives on our own terms. We need to find our own happiness and strive to reach that instead of letting others direct us. We need to live for ourselves, not for other people, because if we do that, we will end up being unhappy. And I am sure that the people we love, be it our parents, our partner, our family, or our friends, won’t be happy to see us sad and lost.
Here’s something that will help us decide things on our own and follow what we believe in. We need to understand that our lives are our own, and we have the right to decide what we want to do, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. Moreover, people we love might not approve of what we want to do. However, if they truly love us, and we love them, we will respect each other despite our differences. So maybe they will talk about us behind our backs. Maybe they will try to change our minds. But all the same, even when we go against their will, they still love us anyway. And that’s what matters. Under all that, they will still love us. And if they don’t, then they are not worth our time.
Another thing that a friend of mine said to me that really made an impression on me is that: It’s better to follow ourselves rather than our parents, because when we fail because of ourselves, if we made a wrong decision we would be able to recover quickly. But if we do it because someone else told us to, we would forever be resentful to them.
I’m very sorry for not being active lately. School’s been consuming much of my time.